The Secret to Leaving a Narcissist or Going No Contact Via the EXPRESS LANE in 35 Words or Less!

What got you into this mess in the first place was insufficient

self-love &

self-worth.

As you build & strengthen your self-worth, the trauma bonding will begin to weaken at rapid speed.

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And this is true for yourself or for a loved one. It's terrible to watch someone you love go through narcissistic abuse-- or any abuse. I know your instinct is to get them out of the relationship as fast as you can, but we both know that never works.

They have to want it for themselves.

But what you can do is either get them the support that will enable them to build self-worth, or they will want to start the journey on their own.

I have coached hundreds of women over the years and listened to their stories in Facebook groups, on Instagram, and now on TikTok. Most of these people want to get away from their narcissist but they don't have the willpower to do it on their own because of the trauma bonding, the cycle of abuse, or, commonly, financial reasons.

But as they build their self-worth, their inner strength gets stronger and their motivation "to find another way" is going to build momentum.

What's wonderful about building self-worth at this stage is that the self-worth is going to be what protects us all from ending up with another narcissist or sociopath down the road. You see the #1 thing that separates people who end up in abusive relationships and those who don't is SELF-WORTH. Somebody who sets healthy boundaries and has a healthy sense of worth will dump the guy (or gal!) the first time they get caught in a lie or the first time they yell or cheat or whatever, whereas we, victims/p0tential victims, will accept the apology over and over and over, sending the message, "You can do whatever you want to me and there won't be any consequences."

And so they do.

SO, to recap:

What got you into this mess in the first place was insufficient

self-love

&

self-worth

As you build & strengthen your self-worth, you will naturally begin to see how the relationship you're in isn't serving you.

UPDATE (11/06/25)

I am currently building an online course called Aspiring Armor, which will teach you how to spot and avoid manipulators as well as an entire module on building self-worth. Do not lose hope!